I have decided to write this anonymously because I feel like I am far from the ideal personification of resiliency; I would much rather have you imagine reading this as if your inner voice was proclaiming this to you from the peak of a mountain as you are about to commence your ascent. Resiliency, according to Mr. Webster is, “1. The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. 2. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.”
To me, this is a crucial term for everyone especially us who are currently in the rut of feeling unsure about what the future holds for us and our place within it. Nowhere in the definition does it mention the amount of force charged upon the, “substance or object” and, to me, that is most critical. Everyone fights their own battles and we can never know the amount of devastation each battle brings and that’s okay. If one can find the mindset of digressing from the force to focus on the recovery, the results are truly limitless. To quote Rocky, “It’s not about how hard you get hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward”.
I would like to share a personal example, without getting into much detail. Growing up through elementary school and into my earlier teen years, I had only one thought resonate; I had a dream to turn playing sports into my future. I gave it my all, at the age of twelve I was turning down desserts at all times, “That won’t help me reach my goal so why should I?” It was the only thought consuming my time and it showed throughout my performance, for a while. Somewhere along the line, usually during the last couple of practices in a 6 session week I found myself thinking about what else I could be doing. That thought only grew until I didn’t make my team one year, and then the next. I blame nothing but my mindset but this isn’t the lesson I want to share now.
After feeling like I had lost my identity, I finally came to an moment of clarity. I was able to come to terms with the fact that I had changed from my younger self, and that I would be okay. I then started at the end, I thought what type of person would I like to be when I’m fully developed and I worked backwards from there to create a plan starting with today. I’ve pivoted my thoughts to a new goal, one with added motivation; I know what it feels like to have regrets and to feel like I’ve truly failed but I also know that if it were to happen again, I will be okay, I will resurface stronger.
As we all move through life, we are bound to face peaks and valleys, that is simply a part of it all. No great actor, scientist, artist, or author achieved the success they have today without putting in the hours of work but that is rather cliché. What is often not shared during award ceremony speeches is the amount of times a given recipient almost quit. As you tackle this day and others after it, remember not every battle is glorious, simply finding the motivation to show up is admirable, and the only way to build a wall is one brick at a time.
I definitely had some difficulties coming up with a proper way to tie this writing together. I certainly do not want to come across as one who has made through because that simply isn’t the case. We are all at different stages of our journeys and none of us are done yet; none of us are down growing. For everyone participating in any and all ONERUN events, you will never truly be able to tangibly see the impact you are all apart of, you are all extremely valued.
Thank you and enjoy the small things.